Why you don’t have to be “Feminine” to be Feminine.

Femininity has really changed over the years. What used to be the social norm 50 years ago is completely different from today (I think today’s norms would definitely shock people from decades past, haha). Something that tends to bother me is the idea that there is only one way to be feminine- the girly way. This way of thinking causes most females to feel like they constantly fail to measure up, which is a total killer to their self-esteem and body confidence. I really felt compelled to share my thoughts on this topic after finding myself struggling with not feeling “feminine enough” in comparison to what I see on TV and in magazines. I’d love to hear what you guys think on this topic as well, please feel free to join the conversation in the comments below.


I’ve always felt like a girly girl. Ever since I was little, I’ve loved playing around with makeup, decorating the space around me to be as cute as possible, and getting doled up whenever I go out. Typical feminine things, right? Watching an episode of Desperate Housewives or flipping through the latest issue of Vogue, however, always leaves me feeling less than girly. Try as I might I just don’t enjoy wearing heels and have never been able to wear anything taller than an inch for more than a few minutes. Pretty, frilly dresses? I think they’re super cute, but I hardly ever wear dresses, instead opting for a good pair of skinny jeans and a nice top. I don’t wear a ton of jewellery or accessories neutral colours are my preference over super bright ones, and when I’m home you’re likely to find me in baggy tees instead of cute pyjamas. Not exactly your average contestant competing for a rose.

I think it’s about time we stopped putting femininity into such a tiny box. Why not celebrate every type of female, and let girls enjoy being who they are instead of constantly telling that they need to change? I think defining what is “feminine” should be more based on the inside rather than so much so on the outside. Does not taking bubble baths on the regular or shopping at Victoria’s Secret mean I’m lacking in femininity? If a girl enjoys working on cars instead of getting her nails done, does that mean that she’s any less of a girl? Instead of saying that there is only one female standard that we should all try to achieve, how about we each bring our unique form of femininity to the table and celebrate all of the diversity? We should see all of our traits as special features rather than flaws. Stop the comparison. End the shaming. Celebrate every woman.

What are your thoughts on today’s view of femininity?

Stay Fancy,



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